When you got married, you likely never pictured yourself getting divorced and sharing parenting time with your ex. But this is a reality for many couples in the U.S.
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, in 2019, 746,971 couples in the U.S. got divorced or annulled their marriages, and many began to co-parent. If you and your former spouse are trying to co-parent following your divorce, these strategies can help you effectively share parenting time.
1. Improve your communication
Committing to consistently, purposefully and peacefully communicating with your ex can positively affect the way you co-parent. Although positive communication with your ex may seem impossible while sharing custody, keep in mind that the way you and your ex communicate can affect the wellbeing of your children.
2. Set similar schedules
Work with your spouse to set a similar schedule for your children at both houses. Set consistent rules for chores, bedtimes, screen time and other elements of your children’s schedules. This will help your children feel more secure as they get used to your divorce.
3. Keep conversations focused on your children
Do everything you can to keep conversations with your ex focused on your children. Do not let these conversations digress into other issues that can lead to arguments.
Learning to co-parent effectively with your ex can take time, and there may be disagreements that arise along the way. Remain willing to compromise and try to remain consistent and respectful throughout the duration of this long-term relationship.